I was minding my own business. I don't even know why she did it. But she did. Lisa did.
For reasons I still cannot fathom, Lisa stabbed my hand with a pencil. We were in fourth grade in Alameda, CA. Maybe she had a crush on me, but I have to say that's a weird way to express your feelings. The pencil had been sharpened to a sharp point and the lead broke off UNDER MY SKIN.
Now, you could say that's no big deal. But here's the kicker. It's still there. I just looked at it. You can look too in this picture.
I wonder how much of what I do or say stays with people long after the fact. Do you ever wonder that? Like that time you told Freddy to meet you at 3PM for coffee down the street at the cafe. Why didn't he show up? Is it his fault? Maybe. And maybe it's yours.
I'm in the process of writing a book on communication. It's taking longer than I want it to, but I have to get it just right before publishing it. Within its pages, the goal is to help empower you to become, yes you guessed it, a more adept communicator. Whether you're talking to your boss, or presenting a keynote, the ability to make your words stick is crucial. One way to do this is through repetition.
Your audience needs you to repeat and repeat and repeat the information. Years ago, I stumbled upon an audio training for increasing memory power. Yes, it was a bit corny, but I gave it a chance and took away this great tool. The audio host talked about being at a cocktail party.
Same scenario. Different methods. See if you can spot what changed.
At a cocktail party: Hi, I’m Brenda, and you are?
Nice to meet you.
Blah blah blah
Conversation ends and you both walk away.
*Many times, you’ve already forgotten his name is Keenan!
Hi, I’m Brenda, and you are?
It’s great to meet you, Keenan.
blah blah blah
Great talking with you Keenan, enjoy your evening.
Conversation ends with Brenda much more likely able to recall Keenan’s name than he is hers. What gets repeated gets remembered.
Fast forward to a week after that party, Brenda thought Keenan was handsome and hilarious
and is anxiously wondering if he’ll try to track her down. Keenan thought Brenda was great too
but can’t REMEMBER HER NAME. Poor Kennan. Shoulda woulda coulda, buddy.
Repetition - one way for you to ensure that the information is mentally embedded under their skin. Thanks for the lead in my hand Lisa, it's become a great life lesson.